This week, I’ll be wrapping things up and looking back on my year.
We’ll begin with the empirical data, of which I kept careful records in 2012 for your reading pleasure.
I hit the milestone of Notch #30 this year, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
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Total girls I kissed (at least) in 2012: 39
Total girls I had sex with in 2012: 16
New notches: 12
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Average amount of sex over the year – 1 night / wk.
Average amount of kissing or more over the year – 2.15 nights / wk.
Most frequent day for sex: Sunday
2nd most frequent day for sex: Saturday
Least frequent day for sex: Wednesday/Thursday (tie)
Longest between sex: 48 days
Longest between kissing a girl: 15 days
Days spent with girls each month (kissing or more):
January – 12
February – 11
March – 6
April – 8
May – 8
June – 12
July – 7
August – 3
September – 8
October – 12
November – 15
December – 10
Total: 112
Days in which I made out with 2 different girls: 9
Days in which I made out with 3 different girls: 1
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Of the 39 girls I made out with, I met them…
In a bar (cold approach): 13
Out with mutual friends: 9
Through work/work events: 4
At a Las Vegas casino: 3
At Starbucks: 2
At a concert: 2
At a racetrack: 2
At an orgy: 2
Went to college together: 1
Taking an improv class: 1
Through online dating: 0
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These numbers should give you something to chew on. If you have questions or want me to elaborate on something, let me know.
What do these numbers mean for who I am, what I’m becoming, and where I go from here?
Stay tuned.
Fascinating breakdown. I’ve never kept a record as detailed as that- keep detailed notes of pickups and photos of my favourite girls but that’s it.
Which month were you happiest? Are you satisfied with your year overall?
Do you have any numbers on flakes or is it so many its not worth counting? Itseems like a dozen plus flakes for every solid prospect.
I don’t recall that many flakes this year.
I probably got about 20 numbers in total that ended up not resulting in dates/later meetups. That is mostly the result of the initial interaction– not closing with high enough value.
If there were flakes, most of the time I didn’t care because I was glad to have the night off, to rest and relax on my own. Or I double-booked and ended up seeing a different girl.
Flaking wasn’t really a concern to me this year. I know for many guys, it’s a major issue and something they worry about a lot. As long as you have some girls in your rotation, and the new ones you’re meeting are handled with solid game, flaking should be minimally disruptive to your endeavors.
“Through online dating: 0″
very interesting. but did you put time and energy into it that? i personally hated online dating when i tried it several years ago.
I put zero effort into online dating this year. I just included this “stat” to make a point (and for a laugh).
“In a bar (cold approach): 13″
sounds like i need to do more night game.
What is time/dollar amount invested?
If you add up all the money I spent with/on girls that I wouldn’t have spent otherwise, my total for the year is probably like $1,000 on drinks and food.
I calculate this by averaging about $20 per week. Usually I would have about one night in a week where I’d be out with a girl and buy a round or two.
Many weeks I spent $0 on girls I was banging or going out with. Sometimes they treated me to our only round of drinks for the night (I’m not a heavy drinker).
I would say Game is infinitely more valuable than money.
Money is just a tool for when your creativity runs out.
Time is money. Not that everyone wants to work 80 huours a week. But many do when the economy is good. So my guess is your spending at least 20 hours a week getting ready, driving to the venue, spinning plates, placating her and kicking her out of bed. Average wage 20.00 per hour. Your CPL (Cost per Lay) is very high. But I guess the memories are priceless.
What a stupid comment. “your cost per lay is very high.” idiotic. Find me a guy that got laid via 16 different girls in a year. Your getting laid more than 98% of the population.
Very interesting insight via spreadsheet though. I follow your blog regularly and wish you would update more.
Jack no your comment is stupid…there is opportunity cost in everything you do. 16 is a good score…but how many hours a week did you spend. Five TwentyFive SixtyFive Eighty pursuing the score.
I’ve got to agree with Jack here. Not sure what gave you the impression that I’m spending tons of time on girls, other than just chilling out with them, enjoying their company, and hooking up with them. I don’t think that counts as “opportunity cost” other than missing out on a chance to build model trains, play video games, or post hater comments on the internet. But whatever floats your boat!
I like the blog and follow it closely. For this particular post, I’m not a fan of highlighting quantity over quality. It overlooks perhaps the most important aspect of game: is the girl you’ve conquered actually good-looking? I’d contend that make-outs or sex with unattractive women actually lowers our value, rather than enhances it. It positions us in a low category.
A good friend of mine is the king of this. He’ll pull some heinous girl from the bar and bang her. Over the ensuing months, he’ll include her in his recent notch count. “I fucked 4 girls the past 2 months!” And I’ll look at him and go “Really? You’re going to count the beast that you took home last month?” It doesn’t provide high value, but actually makes us look weaker. I lose respect for him when he does that.
Roosh brings this up in his “Boner Test” post. If she turns you on, screw what your friends think. There’s truth in that. But there’s also a universal subcategory of women in which there is no debate. It’s a horror show. Those are the ones I’m talking about.
So it’s interesting to post empirical data about the pure numbers. But if you were to line these girls up side by side and then introduce them all to your close friends, how many would you willingly own up to? How many would you be ashamed of?
If you can sleep at night, and feel good about the quality, I take my hat off to you. I just have friends who’ve taken home girls that still give me nightmares – and I never touched them. To add these girls to a list of combined conquests really dilutes the attractive ones you’ve had.
A very fair point. I’ll be addressing the quality of this year’s girls in my next post.
unless you’re a natural (probably 2% out there), there will inevitably be a phase of low quality dabbled in the quantity mix. the consistency of quality seems to improve as game is internalized. i’d be curious to see your ratings of the k-closes and notch counts, and i can bet the average will increase over time.
What about the blowie/handjob girls? Or are they lumped in with the notch count?
Bro, you’re pathetic. I’ve banged over 50 in a year last year, and I don’t keep track of these numbers, or even put remotely the amount of thought into it. I just be myself and if they’re interested we bang and if not we don’t. Simple as that. Jesus christ you game guys are on a different planet. Spreadsheets. Numbers. Obsessed much?
I wish you’d enlighten us and explain how you sleep with 50 girls in a year, but it sounds like you have no idea. That is, if you’re even telling the truth about your numbers.
ps. Be a man. Lose the moderation and post my comment. Stop filtering everything.
If it’s your first time commenting I have to manually approve it. Sometimes I have other things to do in my day. I don’t censor any comments.
I like what your doing and I appreciate the raw data. You are providing a service to mankind through your own experiences. It sounds like your on the path to enlightenment. Regardless of what some may think, there are quite a few poor fellows out there that need help. Unfortunately, not all of us have obtained the supreme level of Mr. Hahaha
One thing I’ve wondered about you- how often do you go out and how many approaches do you do?