Since I was born, everyone in society– my family, schools, television– has been teaching me the following:
It’s a double-standard that women are supposed to stay home with children while men work outside the home.
If we consider their tone, the way it was really meant to be interpreted was, “It’s a dirty double-standard that asshole men make women stay home and raise families, therefore women shouldn’t stand for this, because it’s mean and evil.”
After being parroted and amplified in the feminist echo chamber that is the public school system, both men and women would be openly laughed at if they expressed an opinion that society worked best when women tended to domestic needs and men earned a living for the family.
I don’t know of a single girl from my hometown or any similar middle-class blue state community who has ever said she would be happy settling down as a stay-at-home wife. If she said it, she would be exiled from society, maybe disowned by her family.
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So as feminist institutions (public schools etc.) continue to teach children about these “double standards” I have to ask… what double standards?
Our society as a whole no longer believes women should stay at home to raise children. In fact, they feel strongly that they should get jobs and earn money. Actually, our economy demands it now, so it doesn’t even really matter what people think. There is no threat of women dropping out of the work force en masse due to imaginary patriarchal pressure.
This type of thing is indicative of the entire feminist movement. They haven’t had anything legitimate to fight for since suffrage and Roe V. Wade, yet they’ve spent the last 40 years repeating the exact same things over and over again. It’d be like if we all tried to organize protests against Vietnam.
But they continue, because they like the attention, they like to feel like they are trailblazing rebels, and because our society is allowing them to. We are actually rewarding them by continuing to humor them, listening to their demands and adjusting our laws to constantly keep them “happy.”
As we all know, happiness is a fleeting thing, particularly the sort that we look for externally from others. The only lasting happiness is really better described as “peace” and comes from within.
It is more of a masculine quality to derive peace from within oneself, and women naturally depend more on external happiness– the deriving of resources and protection from the tribe.
Perhaps this is part of the root cause of women’s insatiable nature. Nonetheless, if we continue making concessions to every feminist caprice, there will never be an end to it.

One of the girls I knew back in college has been texting me back and forth. She’s a stay at home mom of two while the husband works. She hates it because she feels worthless and wants to get out and do something for the world. I honestly don’t blame her.
Another girl who got married and had a kid doesn’t regret giving up her full-time manager position to part time in order to see her daughter more. “Family first” as she says.
In all honesty, girls need to find their own happiness by doing whatever it takes to get there.
I want to know about this mythical America where everything falls neatly into blue state/red state ideologies.
In this place I know called reality, I know of plenty liberal women who would love to be stay at home moms. They’re all pro-choice and vote D.
But it’s much easier to paint with that broad brush. As heavy as it may be.
just a few days ago I was scrolling through my newsfeed on Facebook and saw a post from a girl I have met once or twice. I don’t know her at all but first impressions mean a lot to me. her appearance and wardrobe give her an almost punk rock vibe. she’s got several tattoos and piercings, and her clothes gave clue to the hundreds of feminist books sitting in her cat littered apartment..
the post read.
“I love cleaning. I can’t wait to be a housewife.”
I didn’t click into it and check out the comments but I snapped a quick screen shot on my phone. I don’t know what was more surprising, hearing this come out of her mouth or hearing this for the first time.