It’s 3:48 AM on Sunday morning, and I’m sitting in Bond Bar at the Cosmopolitan with Fly. The bar has just closed for the night; it’s become empty and quiet.
Me and Fly are sprawled out on a couple of comfy dark velvet chairs near the dishwashing station, where all the attractive female and male bartenders are stashing the abandoned orphan glasses from around the bar.
Fly looks off into the distance, reflecting. He’s got something profound to say.
“I don’t fuck with dumb bitches.”
I’m coming down from peak intoxication and getting my second wind, and through the haze, I process what he said and nod in understanding.
Dagonet: But don’t you though?
Fly: No, I can’t stand talking to dumb bitches. I have no patience for them.
Dagonet: I always tolerate it, for the sake of hooking up with them.
Fly: Nah, it’s not worth it. If a girl says stupid shit, it annoys me too much. I’m not hanging around with her.
When we first had this conversation it seemed unreasonable to me. With the widespread vapidness of the female population today, how could I reasonably turn my back on any girl I deemed “stupid”?
The important thing that it made me realize, though, is that far too often when I’m dealing with a girl, I end up descending to what I perceive to be her level of intelligence, rather than making her keep up with me.
Being completely lucid, articulate, and quick on one’s feet is crucial in the process of seduction. When you start to slow it down, or operate from a less intelligent frame, it just comes off as weak, or even condescending. It does not inspire tingles of lust in the deepest depths of her heart and/or vagina.
This is not to be confused with the idea that your conversation should be more fun than cerebral. But sometimes if you really flex your cerebral muscles, it can be an alternate display of fitness and dominance that does turn a girl on.
I used to take improv comedy classes, and they had a saying: Play to the top of your intelligence. What they meant by this, is that the most compelling characters that you create, which will lead to the most engaging scenes, are the ones who know everything that you as a person know. If you play a character who is “dumber” than you, it’s less real, less immediate, and less funny. Overall, it is less appealing to the audience, and boxes you in, limiting where you can go with a scene.
When you play to the top of your intelligence around a girl– all synapses firing– you are able to go off on interesting tangents, make thoughtful observations, and find provocative connections between seemingly unrelated topics. You are more able to lead her on a journey, one on which she will gladly come along for the ride.
So don’t worry about seeming “too smart” for a girl. If you play to the top of your intelligence and she can’t keep up, then you should be like Fly, and let her walk away. Because there will always be another girl waiting in the wings, who recognizes the higher plane of existence you’re operating on, and will come toward you like a bug to a zapper.